Okay, okay, breathe. So, last weekend, there I was, at Sophie's party (you know, the one with the questionable karaoke choices?). Anyway, Mathieu, the guy I've been secretly crushing on since… well, forever, actually… Mathieu kissed me. Kissed me. Full-on, not-a-peck-on-the-cheek, proper kiss. I thought I was dreaming. I practically floated home. But then… nothing. Nada. Zilch. No text, no call, no carrier pigeon with a cryptic love note. Which brings me to the burning question: Il m'a embrassée mais on ne sort pas ensemble?! What is happening?!
The Kiss Conundrum
Seriously, what is the deal? We’ve all been there, right? (Please tell me I'm not alone in this cosmic confusion.) You think something is brewing, sparks are flying, then bam! Suddenly you're back in relationship limbo, wondering if you imagined the whole thing.
Let's break this down. Here are a few possible scenarios, all equally infuriating, I might add:
- The Experimental Kiss: Maybe he just wanted to see what it was like. Like trying a new flavor of ice cream. "Oh, this 'you' flavor is... interesting. But I think I'll stick to chocolate." Ouch.
- The Drunk Mistake (hopefully not!): Always a classic (and heartbreaking) excuse. Alcohol can make people do things, but does it really make them that oblivious? I mean, come on!
- The "He's Not That Into You" Reality Check: The cold hard truth. Maybe he enjoys the flirting, the attention, but doesn't see a future. Deep breath. Okay, moving on...
- He's Scared of Commitment: Dun, dun, duuuuun! The commitment-phobe. He likes you, maybe even really likes you, but the thought of a relationship sends him running for the hills. (Ugh, red flag alert!).
- He's Playing Games (the worst!): This is the ultimate insult. Using the kiss as some sort of manipulation tactic. If this is the case, run, don't walk. You deserve better than that!
So, What Now?
The big question, right? Do you confront him? Do you play it cool? Do you just pretend the kiss never happened and start practicing your single-and-fabulous act?
My advice? (And you can totally ignore me, I'm just a girl with a blog and a confusing kiss story) Be direct. Not aggressive, but direct. Something like, "Hey, that kiss the other night was fun. I was wondering what you're thinking about it?" Keep it casual, but let him know you're interested in knowing where you stand.
The worst thing you can do is overthink it! (Easier said than done, I know). Don't analyze every single text message, every fleeting glance. That way lies madness!
Ultimately, you deserve someone who is excited to be with you, someone who doesn't leave you hanging after a major moment like a kiss. If he's not that person, then c'est la vie! There are plenty of fish in the sea (and plenty of other people to potentially kiss!). Keep your chin up, wear your best lipstick, and move on to the next adventure.
And if you figure out the secret to decoding the male brain, please, please share it with me. We're all in this together!
